Spike entered our course with an enormous depth of heart, excellent communication, authentic loving healing presence and years of life experience in the realm of Spiritual Awakening. Even before we knew he was dying, he became our class Beloved as he shared his truth, understanding, and personal experiences during our time together. It was not until our last day together that we discovered that Stephen's heart, his physical beating heart, may stop beating in less than 2 years.
Read this beautiful story of his journey, of the courageous and remarkable task of self-healing before death, and what it was like for a man with a terminal diagnosis to receive the end of life care and education offered in this course.
Most of us have had the raw and devastating experience of The Diagnosis: the harsh news that Death is coming to claim our loved one. In an instant our lives are turned up-side-down. Our stress level blows the top off the meter. We may be frozen in shock or in the free fall of tumultuous emotions which challenge our mental and physical health and make it impossible to carry on with daily life.
The human being on the other side of the desk, the doctor--the one tasked with delivering the horrible news--is also suffering. Besides not having had much if any training in end of life conversations, the average doctor is scheduled to see the next patient in less than 15 minutes.
“We are supposed to see more patients in less time and provide much more documentation. We work daily with human tragedy, illness, death, and loss. Many of us don’t take time off or debrief after adverse events or patient deaths. Instead, we move on to the next patient. It’s no wonder that more than half of physicians report being burned out,” said Joan M. Anzia, MD.
Burnout is characterized by exhaustion, cynicism, and reduced effectiveness—unhappy, stressed out doctors. Physician burnout has been shown to negatively influence quality of care, patient safety, and patient satisfaction.
Let’s face it. We are not well prepared as a culture to deal well with end of life care and the difficult conversations which must be had. The cultural emphasis on youth and the fear of old age and death pervade even the medical establishment.
... The trainings at the Conscious Dying Institute offer the possibility of facing into our own fears of Death, and gaining some resilience to be able to be really present and helpful to others and their families as they pass through their last days. When we are called to the sacred work of being a Death Doula, we are called to confront the Mother of all fears, Death. How can we help those dying to navigate the enormity of their terror once the specter of their own Death is staring them in the face?
The end has been pronounced. The truth is a razor sharp knife that cuts through your mind and heart. It’s sliced through the dream of seemingly endless days and destroyed it. Ten thousand tumultuous emotions are waging war within you—along with the battle your body is clearly losing. You are lost. Your friends and family too are lost in fields of shock, disbelief, grief, helplessness, anger and loss.
“It’s not fair! Why me? I’m not done yet! I never got to….I just….Please give me a little more time….I promise I’ll….Oh Nooooooo!”
With all the loud inner voices demanding this truth not be real, how is it possible to go on?
“How can I do this thing no one has taught me to do before?”
The atmosphere of the room is pregnant. Soft music plays as a candle flickers. Fragrance of a blossom wafts by. We are watching. The chest rises and falls ever so slightly. Now the breaths are further apart. And then, and then, there is an exhale…..minutes pass and no more breaths come. There is a luminous presence in the room. The body looks radiant. We look up at each other in tender wonder, completely swept into the Mystery. We are transformed. Death is real. The reality of it hits us. We too will die. Wow. People come. There is soft weeping and whispered prayers. Together with our end of life Doula, we adorn the body with flowers, and sit together, surprised by the power and beauty of it all.
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What if your next career gave you an endless flow of meaningful passionate work based in Human Caring and in undeniable facts of life?
What we know for certain: 100% of everyone ever born will die. Each of us needs support in doing both with love, comfort, and dignity.
What if you could support your community or receive comforting healing care during death’s profound transitions in more natural, loving and less medical ways?
While our culture celebrates beginning of life and values Mid-wives and Birth Doulas, we are often unprepared for the gifts of life’s final days, lacking the support to receive death’s transformational portal and care guided by the spiritual, emotional, physical and practical care patients and families want and need.
Conscious Dying Institute (CDI) is paving a new path in the realm of end of life (EOL) care; one emerging from awareness, humanity, dignity, caring consciousness, and a return to the sacred. The purpose herein is to discuss the emerging theoretical perspectives of CDI and to address their implications for broadening the scope of nursing and EOL care.
To our graduates and doulas in practice: thank you for all you do! We found Judy MacDonald Johnston's 5 practices for planning for a good end of life a wonderful, accessible perspective on the work we do.
Caregivers encompass uncountable numbers of an often poorly educated workforce who take care of our loved ones when we cannot. These caregivers live in our communities. They become a part of our homes and families. Increasing caring literacy for these medical and non-medical caring professionals is a way to give back. It provides a career path that not only stabilizes caregivers in the fundamental science and stages of dying, but it may increase spiritual awareness, loving kindness to self and other, and overall sense of well being as well.
Increasing end of life literacy may positively influence the patient’s experience of care, decreasing pain and suffering in our communities. It may expand our understanding of “do no harm”. In our time of deepest vulnerability, frailty, and dependence, caring literacy protects all of us.
Most caregivers attending at end of life bear witness to mysterious and unexplainable events that happen around the dying process. Most of these events have a feeling of awe and mystery. They deserve our respect. They deserve to be shared and acknowledged.
Accounts of subtle energy as factual reality have existed since the beginning of recorded time - experiences with angels, devils, fairies, elves, gods, heaven, the void, mysteries, colors, sounds and miracles - a whole universe of mysterious events during life and death.