End of Life Training for a Seventeen Year Old

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End of Life Training for a Seventeen Year Old

My father died when I was seventeen years old.  I was young and the thought that my dad would die never entered my mind.  It might not have entered his and it certainly did not enter the minds of anyone who knew him.  He was healthy, handsome and hearty.

When he died of a heart attack there was shock.  He was forty three years old with a wife and two children at home.  He passed in the middle of the night with EMTs, blinking red lights and a neighborhood that was awakened from its slumber. Walls were punched, screams were let loose and tears flowed.

I am about to celebrate my seventieth birthday and have survived my own heart attack.

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How a Visit from Death Saved My Life - Part 2

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How a Visit from Death Saved My Life - Part 2

This week we continue with the conclusion of Dr. Matthew Wilburn King's story about learning from death and illness as a teacher.  "Death and disease are not enemies; both can be great friends on our journey through life. We should embrace them."  We publish this with gratitude for Matthew, and for all the caregivers serving those walking with death.

The trainings at the Conscious Dying Institute offer the possibility of facing our own fears of death and gaining skills to be really present and helpful to others and their families as they pass through their last days. This is a healing path, the sacred work of being an End of Life Doula.  Trainings offered in Boulder, Vancouver, Asheville, Gainesville.

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How a Visit from Death Saved My Life - Part 1

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How a Visit from Death Saved My Life - Part 1

I knew I was going to meet the angel of death prior to his visit.

At first I felt trepidation and angst. I didn’t know what to expect from such a powerful spirit, but I knew that he might be coming to collect me, even if I wasn’t ready to go.

I had been diagnosed with Stage IVB of a rare blood cancer, and although my oncologist couldn’t state if I was going to live or die, he made clear that I had a 15 percent chance of survival. In other words, 85 percent of the people diagnosed at the same time as me with this rare blood cancer are now dead.

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Beyond “Do No Harm” To Caregiving as a Spiritual Practice & Evolution of Human Consciousness

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Beyond “Do No Harm” To Caregiving as a Spiritual Practice & Evolution of Human Consciousness

The Hippocratic Oath is meant to be a protection for both patient and clinician. Here is a modern version of The Hippocratic Oath which goes like this:

  • I swear to fulfill, to the best of my ability and judgment, this covenant: 
  • I will respect the hard-won scientific gains of those physicians in whose steps I walk, and gladly share such knowledge as is mine with those who are to follow. 
  • I will apply, for the benefit of the sick, all measures which are required, avoiding those twin traps of overtreatment and therapeutic nihilism. 
  • I will remember that there is art to medicine as well as science, and that warmth, sympathy, and understanding may outweigh the surgeon's knife or the chemist's drug. 
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LOVE, LOSS AND RECONNECTION

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LOVE, LOSS AND RECONNECTION

There is a lot for me learn about who I am.  Part of that learning comes from looking back in time and exploring how I feel about the loss of loved ones. 

My dad died when I was seventeen. For the last fifty three years I have carried a memory of who he was and wondered what we could have become together.  My Uncle Max, who was his best friend, and I had some wonderful conversations about who my Dad was and what he meant to both of us. I am indebted to Uncle Max for giving me a fuller picture of the man who was my father. I cherish those conversations, memories and have some understanding about how they have shaped my present day thoughts and behaviors.  Understanding that I needed someone to answer my questions about my father, and how helpful it was, had a bearing on the step that my buddy Mike and I recently took.......

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Whole Person End of Life Care: Improving Joy in Caregiving & Triple Aim in Health Care

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Whole Person End of Life Care: Improving Joy in Caregiving & Triple Aim in Health Care

The Sacred Passage Doula Certificate Program prepares caregivers from all disciplines and care settings to befriend death, surrender and trust deeply in each moment and restore death to its sacred place in the beauty, mystery and celebration of life. It builds communities of care and healing, benefiting all those involved in care and healing during critical illness and at end of life.

End of Life Doula Education supports achieving the "Triple Aim" in Healthcare by focusing on Care and Healing at End of Life

The IHI Triple Aim is a framework developed by the Institute for Healthcare Improvement that describes an approach to optimizing health system performance. Conscious Dying Education and Care answers the national, ethical, and cultural imperatives to develop new designs for health at end of life --simultaneously pursuing three dimensions identified by IHI-- called the “Triple Aim”:

  • Improving the patient experience of care (including quality and satisfaction);
  • Improving the health of populations (systems, cities, organizations, families, communities)
  • Reducing the per capita cost of health care.
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Two Years to live: A Student's Inner Exploration Brings Healing to ALL

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Two Years to live: A Student's Inner Exploration Brings Healing to ALL

Spike entered our course with an enormous depth of heart, excellent communication, authentic loving healing presence and years of life experience in the realm of Spiritual Awakening. Even before we knew he was dying, he became our class Beloved as he shared his truth, understanding, and personal experiences during our time together. It was not until our last day together that we discovered that Stephen's heart, his physical beating heart, may stop beating in less than 2 years.

Read this beautiful story of his journey, of the courageous and remarkable task of self-healing before death, and what it was like for a man with a terminal diagnosis to receive the end of life care and education offered in this course.  

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Improve Life and Health for Doctors: Reduce Physician Burnout with Conscious Dying Education And Care

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Improve Life and Health for Doctors: Reduce Physician Burnout with Conscious Dying Education And Care

Most of us have had the raw and devastating experience of The Diagnosis: the harsh news that Death is coming to claim our loved one. In an instant our lives are turned up-side-down. Our stress level blows the top off the meter. We may be frozen in shock or in the free fall of tumultuous emotions which challenge our mental and physical health and make it impossible to carry on with daily life.

The human being on the other side of the desk, the doctor--the one tasked with delivering the horrible news--is also suffering. Besides not having had much if any training in end of life conversations, the average doctor is scheduled to see the next patient in less than 15 minutes.

“We are supposed to see more patients in less time and provide much more documentation. We work daily with human tragedy, illness, death, and loss. Many of us don’t take time off or debrief after adverse events or patient deaths. Instead, we move on to the next patient. It’s no wonder that more than half of physicians report being burned out,” said Joan M. Anzia, MD.

Burnout is characterized by exhaustion, cynicism, and reduced effectiveness—unhappy, stressed out doctors. Physician burnout has been shown to negatively influence quality of care, patient safety, and patient satisfaction.

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Death Doulas Navigate Difficult Conversations and Decrease Fear

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Death Doulas Navigate Difficult Conversations and Decrease Fear

Let’s face it. We are not well prepared as a culture to deal well with end of life care and the difficult conversations which must be had. The cultural emphasis on youth and the fear of old age and death pervade even the medical establishment.

... The trainings at the Conscious Dying Institute offer the possibility of facing into our own fears of Death, and gaining some resilience to be able to be really present and helpful to others and their families as they pass through their last days. When we are called to the sacred work of being a Death Doula, we are called to confront the Mother of all fears, Death. How can we help those dying to navigate the enormity of their terror once the specter of their own Death is staring them in the face?

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Working With Death Helps us Live Fully: Death Doula’s Caring Partnership

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Working With Death Helps us Live Fully: Death Doula’s Caring Partnership

The end has been pronounced. The truth is a razor sharp knife that cuts through your mind and heart. It’s sliced through the dream of seemingly endless days and destroyed it. Ten thousand tumultuous emotions are waging war within you—along with the battle your body is clearly losing. You are lost. Your friends and family too are lost in fields of shock, disbelief, grief, helplessness, anger and loss.

“It’s not fair! Why me? I’m not done yet! I never got to….I just….Please give me a little more time….I promise I’ll….Oh Nooooooo!”

With all the loud inner voices demanding this truth not be real, how is it possible to go on?

“How can I do this thing no one has taught me to do before?”

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End of Life Doula – Flowing To Freedom With Compassionate Care

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End of Life Doula – Flowing To Freedom With Compassionate Care

The atmosphere of the room is pregnant. Soft music plays as a candle flickers. Fragrance of a blossom wafts by. We are watching. The chest rises and falls ever so slightly. Now the breaths are further apart. And then, and then, there is an exhale…..minutes pass and no more breaths come. There is a luminous presence in the room. The body looks radiant. We look up at each other in tender wonder, completely swept into the Mystery. We are transformed. Death is real. The reality of it hits us. We too will die. Wow. People come. There is soft weeping and whispered prayers. Together with our end of life Doula, we adorn the body with flowers, and sit together, surprised by the power and beauty of it all.

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Train in One of the Top 10 Fastest Growing and Hottest Jobs of the Future

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Train in One of the Top 10 Fastest Growing and Hottest Jobs of the Future

Become an End of Life Doula

Join one of the top 10 fastest growing jobs in the country while being part of a revolutionary movement to restore death to its sacred place within our homes and communities.

What if your next career gave you an endless flow of meaningful passionate work based in Human Caring and in undeniable facts of life?

What we know for certain: 100% of everyone ever born will die.  Each of us needs support in doing both with love, comfort, and dignity.

What if you could support your community or receive comforting healing care during death’s profound transitions in more natural, loving and less medical ways?

While our culture celebrates beginning of life and values Mid-wives and Birth Doulas, we are often unprepared for the gifts of life’s final days, lacking the support to receive death’s transformational portal and care guided by the spiritual, emotional, physical and practical care patients and families want and need.

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What End of Life Care Needs Now: An Emerging Praxis of the Sacred and Subtle

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What End of Life Care Needs Now: An Emerging Praxis of the Sacred and Subtle

Conscious Dying Institute (CDI) is paving a new path in the realm of end of life (EOL) care; one emerging from awareness, humanity, dignity, caring consciousness, and a return to the sacred. The purpose herein is to discuss the emerging theoretical perspectives of CDI and to address their implications for broadening the scope of nursing and EOL care.

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